Mr. Right needs a Mrs. Right

Every girl has a dream guy. We have this "future husband" designed in our minds that possesses special personality traits and physical features. Three years ago, our girl's bible study began a study on purity using the book And the Bride Wore White by Dannah Gresh. In this study, we designed our "Mr. Right". Being a Christian in today's world, it's hard to date and find someone with the same morals and standards. We didn't create our "Mr. Right" to plan how attractive we expected our future husband to be, but the standards we expected him to meet. Some of my qualities listed... "spiritual leader, good listener, confident, pure, has Godly friends, giving, etc.". It's so important to have a set of standards you expect your future spouse to have, and it's important to go by those standards when choosing who to date.

About a week ago, I purchased Magnetic by Lynn Cowell after my friend recommended it. The book focuses on how to become a girl that attains all the fruits of spirits that's "magnetic" to the right type of guys that God wants us to be interested in. After starting in on the first few pages, I took my "Mr. Right" out of my bedside table.

 

For those of you who don't know, I have been in a relationship for almost three years now with Dustin Forsythe. We both love Jesus Christ and want others to see Him through us and our relationship. When I started in on Magnetic I began feeling very guilty. I want Dustin to be my "Mr. Right" and I had caught myself getting upset and reacting in anger when Dustin upset me or maybe couldn't come see me due to uncontrollable situations. I wasn't loving and forgiving the way I expected my "Mr. Right" to love and forgive me. It's so easy to get caught up in what we want and need and forgetting how we should be meeting the needs of others.

I looked at my little paper-made "Mr. Right" and imagined a cut-out "Mrs. Right" created by Dustin. What Godly qualities does he desire her to have? Would I meet them all? He may not have it written down on paper but I know in his mind he a has his "Mrs. Right". Instead of striving to be a virtuous woman of God that acted in love, kindness, joyfulness, and forgave, I had got caught up in what I wanted and when I didn't get my way, I let myself act bitter and angry.

The point of this post is the "Mr. Right" needs a "Mrs. Right" and vice versa. While we plan for this great Godly person to come into our lives, we need to allow God to transform us into the Godly person that will attract the right person. We can't put the expectations on someone else and go about living a secular life. That's not going to attract the man/woman of God we want. We must put our faith in God's timing that He will bring us to that person. Maybe we are already in a relationship. Work hard to build that relationship on the foundation of Christ, but we should keep focusing on ourselves individually too. Show the Christ-like love we long to receive. If we begin to ask God to give us the love, patience, and forgiveness we need, it's amazing how He can change our attitude about everything. It's so much easier to let go of the little things and react in love and forgiveness versus bitterness.

I encourage everyone to have a set of standards to go by when dating and if making your own "Mr. Right" helps, create one for yourself! But don't stop there. I made myself a "Mrs. Right" that night, that listed the qualities that I should pray for and strive to possess. Challenge yourself to love deeper and wider, forgive quicker, and be more patient. It starts within ourselves. Before you start searching, be content with your relationship with Jesus Christ. We will never be satisfied if we expect our "Mr. Right" to completely satisfy us. True satisfaction comes from the love that can only be given from Christ alone. Don't put pressure on yourself to become perfect, because we can never be perfect for anyone either. If someone is expecting you to be perfect, they haven't been satisfied completely with Christ either. Remember Jesus is the only perfect being, and we are all going to make mistakes. That's why it's so important to be able to love and forgive. Don't work to achieve perfection but work to become as Christ-like as possible.

This was so eye-opening and God really showed me what I could start doing to better myself for me and how I could become more "magnetic" for Dustin. Christian people are drawn to joyful people. Instead of only thinking of "Mr. Right", think of what you can do to become "Mrs. Right" and attract that person God desires you to! "Mr. Right" needs a "Mrs. Right"!

I highly recommend Magnetic by Lynn Cowell and And the Bride Wore White by Dannah Gresh